What have we done wrong?

Had a bad day and I didnt even raised my voice much. Positive reinforcement, Negative reinforcement. What went wrong? Did we give him too much attention? Not enough patience? Not enough praise? Not enough reasoning? What went wrong?
Perhaps its always easier to comment. To give theories.It hurts to hear, " The kid is bullying you. He is manipulating both of you." It hurts to be a monster. What went wrong? We had showered him with love. We tried the soft method. We tried the hard method. Perhaps not hard enough. Lord, help us. Grant us wisdom Father.

18th January 2011

It was a great day! He was almost angelic today! Thank God.
Lord, continue to grant us wisdom and patience in dealing with your child ;o)

I want to remember His words that brought me through the days

12 th January 2011
In His Time, In His Time, HE makes all things beautiful in His time....
Yes Lord, indeed in your time, you will make him beautiful. Lord, in Your time, he will see his own beauty within himself.

13th January 2011
The toughest struggle with him yet - 2.5 hours. For the first time, I lifted my hands - a tool I resolved not to use on him. I had to today. With a burdened heart, I held his little hand and took him away. He followed meekly, almost in an angelic way.
We love because He first loved us - 1 John 4:19. It dawned on me - he may be behaving this way because he had never experienced love and acceptance.
He will learnt to love because we first loved him. Lord, grant us extra wisdom, extra strength and immense patience.

14th January 2011
Then the LORD spoke to Moses and to Aaron, and gave them a charge to the sons of Israel and to Pharaoh king of Egypt, to bring the sons of Israel out of the land of Egypt - Gen 6:13
Lord, you have given us a charge over your precious child. Help us Lord to bring him out of chaos and into your loving arms.